"You should be over it by now." "How long has it been, aren’t you finished grieving yet?" "You shouldn’t be dwelling on it." "Haven’t you been through all the stages of grief by now?" "It’s been a year, you should move on." As bereaved people, we are all used to hearing platitudes: well-intentioned friends, family, colleagues, acquaintances, etc. all want to offer their sympathies, and this is their idea of support. But, as we know through experience, grief isn’t prescripti

1. Don’t keep asking WHY. It's a waste of time and an energy-draining question. ​ 2. Spend as much time as possible taking care of yourself. Mentally, physically, and spiritually. This can be as simple as taking a bath, listening to soft music, or binge eating cake. Do anything that feeds your soul and brings you comfort, no matter what it is. ​ 3. Surround yourself with positive reminders. I’m talking about a mug that sits in your cabinet and says, “Sorry, I’m awesome!” Wake